I’ve always seen female bass players as the epitome of the word “cool”. I mean just think of the famous Kims: Kim Gordon of Sonic Youth and Kim Deal of the Pixies/Breeders, two really good bass players (if not two of the best!) in the world right? Now if someone would ask me why I enjoy reading Sonya Cisco’s blog, The Ramblings of a Formerly Rock & Roll Mum, at the top of my head I would say because she’s real, candid, funny and guess what? A bass player! For fifteen years, the lovely woman behind the blog was a bassist of a band who played in festivals around the UK and Europe. Actually when I first started following her blog, I didn’t even know she was a bass player. I only found out when I clicked on her about me section, that was really just the icing on the cake.
Tell us something about yourself and your little ones (age & sex)
My name is Sonya Cisco, and I am a 40 year old mother of three. My children are 17, 9 and 2. Quite the age range! I had my first at 23, and my last at 38. And I can safely say each age has its own advantages.
I am much calmer and less anxious as an older parent, but definitely had more energy and felt the sleepless nights less as a young parent.
What was your child’s birth story(ies) like?
My eldest child and only daughter was induced at 38 weeks, as I had developed pre-eclampsia. During my pregnancy I had some airy fairy ideas about water births and aromatherapy oils. All that went out of the window as I was stuck on a bed attached to several drips, and fairly seriously ill. Luckily the labour iteslf was quick and striaghtforward, taking only 4 hours from when my waters were broken. Unluckily my kidneys and liver were failing so I spent the first night away from my newborn in intensive care. She however was fine, and the following day we were reunited. My subsequent two babies were much more straightforward. My middle one was my only spontaneous labour, and again was born within 4 hours of established contractions. My youngest had to be induced at 13 days overdue. He positively whooshed out, he was born just one hour after my waters were broken. A very painful hour I should add, but I know to those of you who suffered 48 hour labours that is of no comfort!!
What you wish you knew about being a mother, before becoming one:
That it would be without a doubt the highlight of my life. Hard work, lousy pay, and no holiday time. But wonderful nonetheless.
How do you manage your “me-time”?
Sorry?! What is that!? HA! Seriously, at the moment my youngest has only just turned two, has just stopped napping, and I am a stay at home mum. My me-time consists of flumping on the sofa for a couple of hours in the evenings watching terrible TV while hoping nobody wakes up and requires me to move. However the advantage of having older ones is I know this all consuming phase is so short, and I am treasuring it, as he will definitely be my last.
Once your children are older, and at school, it becomes so much easier to find time for yourself. And you must! We all need time to be ourselves in order to be happy, and happy Mum equals happy kids generally!
Do you have a favourite anecdote of your little one(s)?
All of my children are hilarious- intentionally or otherwise. My eldest once terrified a male visitor by making him involved in the following conversation:-
“You are a boy aren’t you” says 3 year old Betsy.
“Yes.” replies my friend.
“That’s because you have a willy. Do you know what I have got?” she responds.
“No?!” replies my friend, with a degree of trepidation.
“An electric toothbrush.” says my small and tangent ridden child.
What is it about Motherhood you absolutely love about?
The love, the laughs, the hugs.
If there’s anything about Motherhood you dislike about, what would it be?
No sick time. Having to do your Mummy job while feeling ill is an awful experience. Thank goodness for DVDs and biscuits on such occasions.
What’s a typical day like for you and your Little One?
In term time the early mornings are the busiest time of the day. Breakfasts, lunches, lost homework, endless shouting at a teenager to get out of bed, frantic dressing. I swear I do more in that first hour than the rest of the day put together. But after the big two are safely out of the house, me and the small chap have a much more relaxed time. We go to several playgroups/activity sessions through the week. Meet friends for coffee. Make the daily hellish visit to the supermarket where I stand dazed in aisles desperately trying to think of what to feed the family for dinner. We currently spend a lot of time with playdoh. Then post school there is homework to nag about, dinner to eat, baths, bedtime, then gin o’clock (also known as kid’s bedtime.)
Best advice you’ve ever received about Motherhood?
I don’t know, I am terrible at listening to advice.
If you could give yourself advice about motherhood before becoming a mother, what would it be?
Nobody is perfect. We are all just doing our best, and you are the best Mum for your child.
How do you manage your time between work/blogging and your little one(s)?
At the moment, badly. It is the school holidays and blogging has taken a huge back seat. If I have time to think of something to write, I can’t actually get to my laptop to write it, as someone else is always on it! But generally, I am lucky, my blog is not a job, it is a hobby, and the only person I have to please is myself. I do it when I have ten minutes, or when I am inspired. I often write blogposts on my phone, still in bed, early in the morning. Then have to correct them when coffee has reinvigorated my ability to spell. I hugely admire those of you that manage to do this parenting lark and work without exploding. Not sure I could! Although having said that, I have always returned to work when my children have started school, and while that is still not easy, life does at least have a more consistent timetable than when you are at home with a tiny human!
Thank you so much Sonya Cisco!
Now head off to the cool Ramblings of a Formerly Rock & Roll Mum this very minute!