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I’ve always wanted a daughter.  I guess it’s also because I’m close to my own mother and want to replicate the kind of relationship I have with her, and what I have with little T is even better.  She’s my little shadow. When she’s not in school, she’s always with me.  She likes to cuddle and gives kisses freely.  And we talk, we talk a lot.  We talk about everything.  I dread the day when she won’t do as much anymore or even want to be with her old mum as much as she used to, hopefully that day will never come.

Little T is a perfect combination of a little girl who loves ballet, playing her cello, gymnastics, but at the same time won’t hesitate to play rough with her best friend who happens to be a boy, or win a race on sports day.  She’s both “girly” and “boyish” though I don’t really like using labels, but she’s definitely both.

My darling daughter is turning seven in August.  How did that happen?  Where did my chubby little baby go?  I can see traces of her on her little six-year-old face, but soon, even that will be gone.  I’m not ready for T to grow another year older.  I know that sounds selfish, but time is just happening way too fast.

I’m not really looking forward to those intimate albeit awkward conversations with T, especially The Talk.    I’m imagining there will be lots of giggles, or maybe she’ll be too grossed to even want to listen to me.

What I want to say to her is this, it’s all part of being a girl, part of being female, part of being a woman.

Already she has questions about when will she have breasts, although at this age, she still refers to them as “boobies” and always said with a little giggle.  I really don’t mind talking about the changes in a girl’s body as they turn into puberty, especially once she starts having her period.  She knows what it is, when she was younger she used to call it “pyramid” and much to my embarrassment used to announce “Mummy has her pyramid today”.

And of course along with that comes the changes in a girl’s body together with the discussion of  proper care of our intimate health and common intimate conditions such as thrush, cystitis, and BV.  Some may think, isn’t it a bit too early to discuss this with your daughter?  I’m not saying I’m going to discuss all of this with her in one go.

I think it’s important to prepare them early.  And to discuss it in a manner where it comes out naturally.  If she gets used to talking about it at an early age, she won’t hesitate to come to me for more questions, at least, that’s what I’m hoping for.

I didn’t have this you see, when I was growing-up.  I never even knew what Thrush was or what the symptoms were.  I had to find them all out on my own.  As parents, we try to give our children as much life skills as we can.  I believe that this includes having these intimate conversations with them, especially for daughters, no matter how trying these conversations may be.  And to reiterate that no matter how embarrassing or difficult the question are, they can always discuss it with us.  What about you?  If you have daughters, have you had this discussion with them?

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68 Comments

  1. Good post idea! It’s something that affects us all and myself especially I think! It’s great to be open and talk an out things like this from the get-go

  2. My parents kept a book called Sex in easy reach from when I was young enough to read. It was a really helpful book that, though we giggled our way through it as kids, answered lots of questions for me as I was getting older. We try to use the correct terms for things with our boys (2 and 4) and I think that I would have appreciated that when I was younger. The difference between penis and scrotum … the difference between vulva and clitoris … I think words have power and being able to name something helps with wider conversations about health and self-care. I think early conversations about safe touch and the right for our kids to say no as soon as they feel uncomfortable are really important. I used to get made to kiss or hug family members who I didn’t know well and didn’t have a relationship with – I wish I knew I was allowed to say no.

    • I so agree with you. You’re right, it’s important to teach them the proper words for privates. As parents, some tend to use nicknames, its fine when they are toddlers, but as they grow older, we must use their proper names. And I agree with the “safe touch”, I need to remind myself not to tell my daughter to give so and so a cuddle anymore especially when she’s obviously uncomfortable about it. It’s all about listening to our kids, isn’t it?

  3. My parents gave me a book about boys & girls / men & women and puberty when I was smaller, I think I read more of the book instead of sitting and talking with my mum, I wish when I was younger I had asked more about the changes my body was going through, although my mum tried her best I think sometimes after “the talk” has been and gone, parents can forget to “check in” with their kids… I think “the talk” needs to be “talks” spread out over months or even years… not everything can be covered in one talk, and the importance of communication is key
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    • I like what you said about talking about it over the years. That’s what I intend to do with T, hopefully I won’t forget. You’re so right, talks/conversations like this one shouldn’t just happen once, but all through out their growing-up-years 🙂

    • That is so true, without panicking and thinking “Oh no, there’s something wrong with me ;)”

  4. I didn’t really get told anything growing up, so I wish I knew about EVERYTHING! I think now it’s worse as kids can google everything and get even more worried. I will definitely be talking to my daughter about things when she is a teenager.

    • I guess it’s a whole different kind of conversation with boys 🙂

  5. I wish i had known about not using perfumed items in delicate areas! Seriously it took so many years of cystitus and infections to realise that I simply cant use anything that has ANY perfume at all!

    • Oh yes, I was the same actually. But now I stay away from scented products 🙂

  6. Jen Temcio

    It is so cool that you are already prepared to be honest and open with your daughter. It is a bit uncomfortable, but it is much worse to pretend that these topics don’t exist.

    • Definitely! And that’s precisely the reason why I want to start early 🙂

    • Same here. I learned it on my own too. I’m hoping my relationship with T when she’s older will be as close as what we have now and that she won’t hesitate to open up to me about anything.

    • I don’t remember either, but I think I learned about it on my own too.

  7. When I first had sex, I was far from ready but due to peer pressure and low self esteem issues I felt like I had to have it, because everyone else supposedly did and I didn’t want to feel left out. What I wished I knew about intimate health was to be taught that I didn’t have to have sex with people if I wasn’t ready and I especially wish that I knew about sex health checks, because I know in the beginning I would be ignorant to my own sexual health and my partners sexual health history. In all relationships as an adult I always like my partner to have a sexual health check because its important that we create open and honest discourse with each other.

    I would love to win, so above is what I really wished I was taught about intimate health x
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    • Open discussion is also what I aim for T. Entered your name 🙂 x

  8. Claudia Krusch

    It can be so hard to have the talk with our kids. I tried to use the proper terms when talking about our body parts. I did not have the talk with my Mom and I wish I would have.

    • I don’t remember my mum giving it either. That’s why I’m determined to have it with my own daughter 🙂

  9. My daughter is so much like me! I am very open with her. We have been talking about everything and anything — including intimate conversations — since she was a baby.

  10. It’s unfortunate how many things often go unsaid between parents and children—like healthy, informed decisions about something is essential and important as their bodies. I love your efforts in increasing the conversation around these types of “taboo” topics. Thank you!
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    • Same here. That’s why I want to start her early and at least she’ll feel (hopefully) comfortable enough to discuss anything with me.

  11. My only experience with thrush is right now – not in human – my horse is suffering from all the damp ground (as are many of our barn horses). The ground is too damp and many of them have developed thrush in their feet. Nasty smelly business.

  12. Jacqui Odell

    I have to have this conversation soon with my daughter. I am not looking forward to it.

  13. Kelly Hirst

    I wish I’d known that baby wipes aren’t just for babies, they can freshen up fully grown humans too!

  14. Open discussion is always good! My mom taught me too about some changes in the body while I was growing up but we never talk about intimate health.

    • That is so true, although I don’t have any comparison, I only have a girl! 🙂

  15. Emma Chester

    I wish I’d known my sexual health was as much about my mind as my body. That actually the only person’s opinion about your body that matters is your own, and that your virginity is neither a prize nor a burden.

  16. I love how she called it your “pyramid” — kids are hilarious. And yes, where does the time go? Our eldest will be four tomorrow!

    • She still does sometimes, even though she of course, knows how to pronounce it at six 🙂 Happy Birthday to your eldest 🙂

  17. You are so right, the time does fly by! I have a son, and it’s terrifying thinking of all the questions he will have one day. Thankfully he has his dad to answer many I just may not know! Me and my mother were always very open with each other, I’m sure you will figure it out! Thanks for sharing!

    • Kids do grow up fast 🙂 I’m sure you’ll also figure out what to reply to all your son’s questions with the help of your hubby 🙂

  18. Having the talk with kids is always tough. What words to use, how to approach them, etc. Im glad I dont have to worry about that for awhile 😉 Xx-Doran @HauteBeautyGuide

  19. Aww I don’t have children, but I have little cousins who I honestly wish they werent growing up so fast. I think I wish I would have known more regular checks and the necessity for them without feeling embarrassed. Feeling confident to ask questions no matter how “strange” they may seem is what really opens dialogue and helps in preventative measures when it comes to our health.

  20. Lynsey Buchanan

    I wish I knew that it is very important to gain knowledge about intimate health and that it is a natural body change that happens to all girls so is completely natural this would have saved saved a lot of embarrassment.

  21. It is really smart to have some insight and share this information, because it can be really hard to learn in on your own as a kid.

  22. Rebecca Swenor

    This is a great post about intimate conversations with your children. It is so important I believe to talk to your children at a younger age so they know they can talk to you about anything. I would have loved to know if using tampons would cause me to lose my virginity. Thanks for sharing great post.

  23. I totally agree with you that educating young girls about their body is very important as it will help them to overcome fear with respect to change in their bodies!

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