Three Habits that Irks the Husband (But I keep doing them anyway).


German philosopher Nietzsche once wrote:

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

I believe him and so did my mum who once said to me “Marry a friend.  Love comes and goes, but friendship will always stay”.  My husband and I have that in our marriage (apart from love of course).  We can laugh like a couple of idiots at the smallest things.  We like each others company, believe it or not, give us a choice to hang out with our friends or each other, we’d choose the latter.

A month or so ago, I went out to watch a movie with mum friends from T’s school, I went home and said to him “You know what, I actually missed you!”  Yes, it did come as a surprise because I wasn’t expecting to miss him.  I thought I’d welcome the change of going out without the husband.  And he is the same,  he doesn’t like going out without me either.  Yes, I know.  We are such a boring couple.  But we kinda like it that way.

However like any relationship, ours isn’t perfect.  We all have irritating habits that may drive the other up the wall.  When I told him I was going to write this post, he was on the defensive side and said that apparently nothing I do really irritates him.  But as always I brushed him off and said “I’m still going to write it anyway”.  I know for one,  it does “mildly” annoy him when I do the following:

1. Interrupts his reading:

I honestly don’t intentionally do this.  It’s not as if I wait till he is reading and then interrupt him for a little chat. I’m not that mean. But yes, many times, when he is sitting or lying peacefully in bed, reading his book, I plop down beside him and start a conversation and I usually start with the most inane subject like “Oh you’ll never guess what I read in so and so’s blog”   Yes, my husband knows the names of the blogs I regularly read because I tell him about them, not that what they write about is silly or anything like that.

Sometimes, I’ll hear him sigh and he’ll put his book down in defeat and answer my questions, or have a little chat with me.  Other times, he’d  say “I’ve been reading this paragraph five times since you came in the room”.  I’d apologise, stop talking and then after a while begin chatting again as if he hasn’t said anything.

2.  Makes him watch my choices of films

No, they’re not chick flicks or romcoms, although I do like watching them too. I like quiet films, or films with a really good witty script, movies that makes you think.  We recently watched Clouds of Sils Maria (starring Juliette Binoche, one of my favourite actresses), admittedly it was one of those films where nothing much happens, you have to listen to the dialogue to enjoy it.  Let’s just say the husband wasn’t so pleased when it suddenly ended.  He looked at me as if to say “That’s it?!”

Then again, he does the same to me.  He’s been interested in Japanese films lately and we’d sit together and watch it.  Some of his choices were really good and some were really bad.   He’d turn to me and say “Oh I’m sorry about that” and then we’d end up laughing.

3.  When out shopping, I suddenly wander off.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who does this to their husbands/wives or partners.  When I see something, or suddenly remember something, I’m off to look for it, without telling him or informing him where I’m going.  Many times he’ll be in mid-conversation expecting an answer from me and he’ll turn around and I’ll be gone.  Surely I’m not the only one who does this?

There’s probably more, but of course in spite the maddening habits, quirks or whatever you want to call them, we accept them.  After all, in the famous words of Mark Darcy of the famed Bridget Jones’s Diary “Perhaps despite appearances, I like you very much, just as you are”.

Do you have any annoying habits or quirks that drive your husband, wife, or partner off the wall?

Do share.

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I'm a part-time writer, full-time mother and dog-walker living in a small English village by the sea with my husband, daughter and a dog named Doc.


  1. It annoys my hubby when i remind him to do things, then when i don’t and he forgets he says why didnt you remind me haha cant win ;).

    • Yep and aren’t we just fab? 😉 Oh wait, you’re American… Aren’t we just awesome?;)

    • I think my husband is used to me already. He just rolls his eyes whenever I walk off 😉

  2. That’s really funny and so cute. It’s the little things that make the big picture anyway and the irking can sometimes make it fun – like my grandparents used to bicker because they enjoyed it, keeping eachother on their toes. They lived with eachother for around 50 years so shows you that you’re right, it’s a friendship 🙂

    My habit would have to be to walk in front of the TV when he’s playing his football game haha (or maybe my OCD cleaning…)

    Alina from The Fairytale Pretty Picture and category manager at The Olive Fox

    • I can imagine how he must find it so annoying when he’s playing and then you’d walk in front of the tv…. something I think I would do too 😉 x

  3. This made me chuckle, hubby and I prefer each other’s company although it is nice to go out with friends. My untidiness is my husbands biggest gripe with me

    • I know. I was actually surprised to miss him when I went out with friends. I thought I would’ve been glad to have left him at home 😉

  4. It’s good that you write about laughing. That’s a big thing. I annoy my Mrs, I’m sure, but I’m quite annoying so it’s to be expected!

  5. Haha I have so many things. Way too many to mention. I too also frequently wander off whilst shopping yet I always manage to say is his fault lol x

  6. Haha my friends do that to me and I am like can’t you see I am trying to read my book lol! We wouldn’t be the same without our quirks though!

  7. Fi Ni Neachtain

    I think I have the opposite view that love stays but friendships end… I’ve never been lucky in friendship! I don’t mean to do it but I seem to want a long, deep chat with my partner just as he’s drifting off to sleep 🙂

  8. As I read your post it felt alien to me – I haven’t had the closeness you describe in a relationship – and it is sad really! I hope I do one day. Kaz x

    • Oh your comment also made me sad … Yes, I agree with you .. one day. Then again, on the bright side at least there’s no one there to annoy you. x

  9. Not sure this comment box is going to be big enough 🙂

    I often interrupt my OH’S reading, normally with a rant about politics.

    She often makes me watch films I have no interest in, normally Japanese, too.

    Being a SAHD it’s funny how our gripes are often the polar opposite of the usual stereotypes. I hear my dad in her gripes and my mum in mine.

    • That’s interesting what you said about hearing your dad in her gripes and your mum in yours. Made me think for a while… Oh and to be fair, we’ve seen a lot of good Japanese films 😉

  10. I don’t think I have any annoying quirks, it’s just my partner who says I do. 😉 I think the thing he finds most annoying is my reading in bed on the kindle app – he likes the room to be pitch black to sleep in.

    My usual response of ‘if you closed your eyes and went to sleep, you wouldn’t know anything about it’ doesn’t go down well either! x

    • If my husband is being honest, I’m sure the list is way longer than this 😉 x

  11. I have a list like this too. I start talking when my husband is watching a film and I’m terrible for stopping mid sentace during a conversation and it drives my husband potty

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