I admire funny people. The ones who can really make me chuckle or better yet, a really good laugh-out-loud moment. Yes, I’ve featured a lot of these funny and witty bloggers on past Chats with mums and dads over the year or so. And Jhanis, the lovely and hilariously funny momma behind the popular blog “The Vanilla Houswife” happens to be one of them.
I’ve read many of her blog-posts that has made me laugh and she also writes bravely about some topics some of us wouldn’t want to touch for whatever reasons we have. You just have to visit her blog to know what I’m on about.
So for this month’s Chat with a mum, it’s more than a pleasure to have her talk about her birth stories and thoughts on motherhood, I also love the cute and funny drawings she does on her blog. And before I forget to mention, she also happens to be a fellow Filipino blogger like me 🙂
Tell us something about yourself and your little ones (age & sex).
Hi, I’m Jhanis, forget-it years old and I love crafting. In theory that is because I suck at it in real life. I mean, I love doing it but I don’t have the patience so I take short cuts, which means most of my crafts are crap.
I also love to cook!
I have two kids. Just two but our house sounds like I have twelve kids inside when they are together. Chico is my 9 year old son and China (chee-na) is my 3 year old daughter.
They make me crazy!
What was your little one(s) birth story(ies) like?
Oh my, scary and funny at the same time.
Chico, my first born came out via CS a week sooner than expected because of Oligohydramnios. During my last ultrasound, they found out that the amniotic fluid was so low that they had to operate right away. Thankfully, I had my ultrasound done at the hospital where I planned to give birth and not at my OB’s clinic so I was just transferred from one room to another.
When my husband learned about it, you would think he would rush to the hospital as fast as he could, right? Wrong. He WALKED all the way to the hospital because according to him, he panicked and didn’t know what to do. Good thing it was just a 15-20 minute walk from our house.
I was wheeled in at 6pm and woke up the morning after. I totally forgot that I gave birth. I was wondering where I was and only when my mom told me that my baby looks so cute did I remember. “Oh yeah! I gave birth!”
My daughter was born via CS too due to placenta previa totalis, which means I was not allowed to go into labor because it could be fatal. My operation was scheduled at 1pm on March 1, 2011. With this in mind, my husband went out of the hospital at around 10am to grab something to eat. However, at around 11am, I was told that my contractions were spiking (although I never felt a thing!) so they wheeled me into the operating room right away. My husband had no idea. Needless to say, he was shocked (but happy) when he came back.
What you wish you knew about being a mother, before becoming one?
That it involves a lot of grunting and mumbling and talking to yourself.
How do you manage your “me” time?
There is nothing to manage. My “me-time” is never fully a “me-time”. I don’t go out with friends except maybe once a year. I rarely do anything by myself. I spend long hours at the office during work days so when I don’t have work, it’s always family time. My only “me-time” is when I blog during the wee hours of the morning when my kids are asleep, if that counts.
This is a personal choice. I may grumble and complain about not having a “me-time” but when I do get out of the house by myself, I don’t enjoy it. I like dragging my kids and husband with me.
Do you have a favourite anecdote of your little one(s)?
This is more of a scare than an anecdote. My 3yo sneaked out of the house late in the evening and nobody knew about it. We only found out when the neighbor brought her back to the house. Thankfully, we live in a gated compound. Whew!
What is it about Motherhood you absolutely love about?
The hugs definitely! My kids are huggers! Melts me each time.
If there is anything about Motherhood you dislike about, what would it be?
When my kids drive me batshit crazy. The tantrums. Ugh!
What is a typical day like for you and your little ones?
5am- China wakes up, turns the laptop on to watch Frozen or Tangled or Monsters University then snuggles up to me.
6am- Chico wakes up and both kids find reasons to fight.
7am- Both kids have breakfast then Chico leaves for school.
8am- Husband comes home from work.
10am- I take China to school.
11:30am- I sit with my son as he takes his lunch at the school cafeteria (They both go to the same school).
12:30pm-China and I go back home.
1:30pm- I leave for work and wish my husband good luck.
4pm- My husband picks Chico up from school.
6pm- My kids have dinner with their dad. Again, I wish my husband good luck.
7pm- One of my kids call me to say that the other is being naughty. We say goodnight.
10pm – My husband goes to work.
12am- I get home, check on the kids, read blogs and check my social media accounts on my phone until I fall asleep.
Rinse and repeat.
Best advice you’ve ever received about Motherhood?
That there is no wrong or right way. That I should make my kids feel and know that they can tell me EVERYTHING.
If you could give yourself advice about motherhood before becoming one, what would it be?
That it’s not like in the movies. They don’t sit still during dinner. But that’s all right. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
How do you manage your time or blogging between work and your little ones?
Thank you so much Jhanis!
Do drop by her blog