Kate of Did that Just Happen is candid, funny and witty. She’s one of the bloggers whom I’ve had the pleasure to connect with through blogosphere and though I’ve never met her in person I know that she is probably one of the kindest, warmest and most sincere person I’ve ever met whether in person or in blogger land.
I follow and enjoy a number of blogs but I can only think of a few bloggers who are genuine in their writing and she definitely is! With Kate, you know that what you read is what she is – a pure delight, lovely (both in and out) and a person who emanates warmth.
Tell us something about yourself and your little ones (age & sex)
I’m a single mom of a 15-year-old boy. I love to read, and do crafts to give away as gifts to my friends. We live by our family calendar in the kitchen. Pretty much if it’s not on the calendar it doesn’t happen and Mr. T and I will both stand there with our phones and update the family calendar! Between his life and mine, friends and family, we stay very busy. Plus, he’s a varsity cheerleader now! He is the first mascot his High School has ever had It’s pretty special (this is the second year the school has been open, he’ll be the mascot next year).
What was your child’s birth story like?
All of those books that tell you that you will know when you are in labor, and you will know when your water breaks and that “back contractions” aren’t a thing are all crap. My water broke and I had no idea! So, I moved some furniture the night before, and the next day my body was acting funny. I just happen to mention something to my mom that night and she insisted that I get to the doctor the next day. She made my dad come get me (and my hospital bag) and take me to the doctor because she didn’t think I should be driving. Sure enough, I was in labor, my water was broke and I was to head to the hospital immediately. I was crying a bit when I told my dad he had to take me to the hospital and he asked why – and I told him “I’m not ready! I’m supposed to have several more weeks!!”
The nurses all laughed at me as they hooked me up to meds, “So you’re the girl who has been in labor for 24 hours and didn’t know it!”
Yes, that is me. Thanks.
Fast forward until almost midnight. Like a full 2 days after the start of labor and the dialog went like this:
MR. T: Knock, knock, knock. Can you let me out of here?
MY BODY: Nope, not happening.
MR. T: Please? I am really ready to come!
MY BODY: Nope, not happening.
One emergency caesarean later and I was holding a beautiful baby boy!
What you wish you knew about being a mother, before becoming one?
That it is okay to ask for help. That no one has to do this on their own and that a lot of times, others want to help! They want to hold the infant so you can eat your lunch Of course, that doesn’t apply when a dirty diaper is involved, then sadly, you are on your own!
How do you manage your “me-time”?
Now that Mr. T is older, it is easier to have “me time” – it’s harder to find “me and T time”.
Do you have a favourite anecdote of your little one?
Okay, seriously, my child is so cute and adorable that every anecdote is my favorite. Can I come up with one now that you’ve put me on the spot? Absolutely not! So here is a picture instead!
What is it about Motherhood you absolutely love about?
I love the unlimited supply of hugs. I love that my teenage son will seek me out at bedtime just to say good night and give me a hug.
If there is anything about Motherhood you dislike about, what would it be?
Where is my magic wand? I hate the days where it feels like I’ve failed because I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do or because I can’t fix it. I want the magic wand that gives me the answers and cures all that is wrong! Sometimes it was when he was sick, and sometimes it is because of something he is going through, I just want to make it all better!
What’s a typical day like for you and your son?
While I’d love to say that we spend so much time together and I have lots of crafts for us to do and games to play, and naturally they are all educational – yeah, that’s not my life! Unlike most of your readers, my son is a teenager, so we are dealing with driving lessons, Mascot/cheer practice and just keeping his room clean!
Best advice you’ve ever received about Motherhood?
Cherish the time.
If you could give yourself advice about motherhood before becoming one, what would it be?
Listen to those that told you to cherish the time together. It sounds so cliché, but just yesterday Mr. T could fit in my arms. Now, he is big enough to carry me around!
How do you manage your time between work and your little one?
I don’t, I just make it up as I go along. I try to pay attention to my son and see what signals he is giving off. Friday I picked him up early from school and we hit the theater to watch a movie. We had a great time together and I just worked for a few hours later that night. I am very fortunate that a job opportunity opened up almost 10 years ago, about the time that Mr. T really needed me in his life more, that has allowed me to work from home and limits my time away from him. It has helped us both out and I feel very blessed to be able to have a work/life balance!
Thanks so much Kate!
Do check out her blog, you won’t regret it!