It’s the first day of 2016! Welcome.
And as always, when the new year comes, I always like to start it with a bang. And this month’s chat with a mum is the best choice to start a new year with style. For one, she certainly has style and she’s a mum with an attitude and it’s not the negative kind. It’s the kind that one would hope to be like, outspoken, smart, and unique. It also helps that she has a story to tell, one that she tells very well and makes her blog different from others. And it’s no wonder that she was nominated by no other than author/journalist Lionel Shriver for not just one but two categories (Best Writer and Best Campaigner) at the recent Mumsnet Blogging Awards 2015.
She’s the lovely woman behind the blog The Comeback Mum. To think that she has only been blogging for a year and yet both her and her blog have gone a long, long way already. Read on and you’ll find out why:
Tell us something about yourself and little one.
My name is Cash Carraway and I’m a blogger, activist and campaigner! I am lucky enough to have a gorgeous 5-year-old daughter who goes by the name Biddy and we live with my husband Ripley and his teenage brother Thomas. We’re a ramshackle bunch but somehow we make up all the components of a family…
What was your birth story like?
Giving birth was hell. When I was pregnant I lived in a safe house for battered women so any kind of birth plan went out of the window. I didn’t go NCT or Anti Natal Classes because I was embarrassed about going on my own so I guess I wasn’t fully prepared for the pain. From the moment I went into labour I demanded all the drugs; gas and air which worked for a few hours and then an epidural which was amazing. But of course that meant I couldn’t feel any contractions and I was too high to push. When my daughter’s heart beat started to drop and they gave me an episiotomy and then shoved a ventouse inside of me. They got her out and she was healthy and safe with a little cone-shaped head but I had 4th degree tears and… now basically Tena Lady is my best friend!
What you wish you knew about being a mother before becoming one?
This is totally corny but I wish I knew how amazing and life affirming being a mum would be – if I had known this years ago I would have had children a lot sooner. My life was a bit rubbish and detrimentally chaotic before Biddy arrived. Now it is filled with a pleasant chaos! And real love.
How do you manage your “me” time?
Me time?! I don’t even get to go to the toilet alone! Me time is the 5 ish hours of sleep I get each night.
Do you have any favourite anecdote of your little one?
When Biddy had one of her friends around on a playdate recently I overheard her talking about Jeremy Corbyn being “one of the good guys”- it melted my little socialist heart!
What is it about motherhood you love about?
I love feeling love. I love the natural happiness that falls out of my daughter and how she shows me the world from a positive perspective. I love making her feel secure and safe and watching her become her own person. I love that she teaches me so much.
If there’s anything about motherhood you dislike about, what would it be?
The constant state of tiredness, nothing can prepare you for that. Why do kids have to get up so early?!
What’s a typical day like for you and your little one?
The day feels so hectic despite having quite a rigid routine – school days are just a case of getting up, breakfast, running to the gates before they close, I go home do some work and then pick her up. Its home, a bit of playtime, sometimes a playdate, reading, food and then bed. That sounds dull doesn’t it?! The weekends are routine free though and we get to go on trips and protests or to the theatre – and if we’re feeling lazy just sit on the sofa all weekend watching Disney movies and eating cake…
Best advice you’ve ever received about motherhood/parenthood?
One of my friends told me to always accept help from other mums. And to always offer up help whenever you can. It useful to have a little network of local mums who all look out for each other and come to the rescue with a last minute playdate because your train has been delayed!
If you could give yourself advice about motherhood before becoming one, what would it be?
Just go with it. There are no rules just do what feels most loving.
How do you manage your time between blogging/work-wise/time with your little one/other activities?
I just try to utilise ALL of that time when she is at school or asleep. You can’t ask little people for “just 5 minutes to finish this paragraph…” but sometimes I cheat and put on a couple of episodes of ‘My Little Pony’ if I’m on a deadline. Nobody’s perfect!
Thank you so much Cash!
If you haven’t read her blog yet, head over for some catching up.
She’s so much worth a read!
Click here to read past chats with mums and dads.
Again, Happy New Year everyone!