Today is April Fool’s Day and what better way to commemorate this rather err… silly celebration is to feature a dad whose blog is aptly named Mutterings of a Fool, although Ben the dad behind the much-read and loved blog is certainly far from being a fool. He is a devoted husband and dad to a beautiful little girl and adorable little boy.
Read on to find more about this certainly not-a-foolish-dad …
Tell us something about yourself and your little one(s).
I’m a dad to 2 little monsters, a pink one and a blue one who 3 and 2 respectively in a couple of months. Yes we’re the crazy people who had babies 13 months apart. When I’m not working or being a dad you’ll mainly find me out running on the trails in the beautiful Wiltshire countryside with my trusty hound Bracken.
The short version is first one (daughter); long build, 2 hospitals, then a frantic finale with an incredible performance by my awesome wife. 2nd one (son); blink and you miss it, wake at 1am, cuddling (a quite literally blue baby) by 7am after a water birth in the hospital and not a home birth.
What you wish you knew about being a Dad before becoming one?
That you’re more likely to discuss the colour of your childs poo over dinner with your wife than how your day at work was.
How do you balance your time between work and fatherhood?
Move close to work to cut your commute, when Matilda was born my commute was an hour each way and I barely saw her. Now it’s 7 minutes and I get to eat breakfast and dinner with them every day. Having an employer that encourages work life balance and allows a work from home day every week helps also.
How do you manage child-free time with your wife? Do you have date-nights?
As I write this we have just returned from our first night away together without children for over 2 years. Recently we’ve started to get baby sitters more but to be honest when they’re so little we quite like being here for them. We do try and make use of our evenings though to keep the flame alive, even if it’s as simple as sitting in the garden on a summer evening together.
Any favourite anecdotes of your little one(s)?
My darling daughter is clever beyond her years and most definitely has her daddy wrapped around her little finger. All this of course means she has quickly learned how to make fun of her dad. I give you as evidence a conversation we had last summer while in the car:
Matilda – Tilda is a big girl
Me – yes, that’s right and what’s Henry?
Matilda – Enry is a boy
Me – clever girl, what about Daddy? Is he a boy or a girl?
Matilda – Daddy is a big girl!
What is it about fatherhood you love about?
It’s awesome. You want more? Well I think it can probably be summed up in the feeling you get when you open the door in the evening having been at work all day and 2 crazy toddlers come running into the hall shouting DADDDY! I love being a dad, I love seeing them develop and learn things, I love their laughter and how you forget all your worries and stresses around them.
If there is anything about fatherhood you dislike about, what would it be?
That no matter what I do being mum always trumps it. There is something so special about that bond with their mum that I can get close to but never quite be on a par with.
If you were given the chance to be a stay-at-home-Dad would you take it?
The only way I’d get this chance is if we won the lottery. My wife has always wanted to be a mum and loves being at home with them. There are very few circumstances where she’d go to work and I’d stay at home.
Best Advice you’ve ever received about Fatherhood?
I think it applies to both parents really but it’s don’t ever beat yourself up for finding it tough. We all have days where our children are just such hard work and we think we can’t do it. But we can, we’re all great parents and should give ourselves credit.
If you can give yourself advice before becoming a Dad, what would it be?
Do what feels right to you as a parent, don’t let people judge you or tell you you are doing it wrong.
Thank you so much Ben!
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