What is happening?


“I’m going to stay till 3” T announced to me like a grown up, as we walked towards her play-school.  I said “Okay.  Are you sure about this?”  I just wanted to make sure that she knew what she was talking about so I rattled on and explained that staying till three means, mummy won’t show up after they’ve had their lunch like I normally do.  She was adamant and repeated “I’m staying till three!”

When we got there, she quickly joined her best-friend F and off they went.  I approached her again and asked her, just to make sure she hasn’t changed her mind, she actually almost shooed me away.  Yes, I know I was probably annoying her.  So kissed her goodbye, and left.

I chatted for awhile with F’s parents outside, but at the back of my mind, I kept thinking, how did this happen?  She actually looked impatient for me to leave.  Whatever happened to that clingy little girl who would say “I want you mummy!”  Just last night she clung to me as she cried and asked for her Dad who was away for a couple of days to attend a meeting.  She was like a little baby again asking for her mummy and daddy.  This morning though, she woke up like an adult, making decisions on her own, leaving her mummy stunned.

Oh dear, this is happening too fast.  So I’m thinking now, it’s only past 10 in the morning.  So what will I do between now and 3?  I suppose I could do some chores like hoover which she hates!  Perhaps read the whole day and not just a few paragraphs which I do while T is doing her thing in the bathroom (It takes her ages!).  Maybe, I’ll finally get to finish The Years by Virginia Woolf which I’ve been reading for months now.  Wait!  I could go and watch all the reruns of Downton Abbey or my favourite property programs like Location, Location, Location or sleep!  Have a blissful uninterrupted sleep?  All these choices of things to do which doesn’t include T is actually making me feel a bit dizzy.

So I’m back to the question, whatever happened to my little baby?  How did she go from this sweet little baby:


To this:


A little girl who loves to play rugby …


And who absolutely loves her new Dr. Martens like a teenager…

This is all happening way too fast for me.


I’m lining up this post with PODcast’s What’s The Story.


  1. I just smile so big when I read your posts about T and her independence and her strong little mind. And when you show the baby picture of her to now…oh man. I can relate I honestly can. Even though mine are 18, 15 and 11 I can swear to you with the 18 year old even as he tells me he is ready to move out all I can think of is him and his naked taxi. And by this I mean when he was 1 our nightly ritual was to strip him down for bath and he would get on his little four wheel cart thing and drive it to the bathroom and we called it naked taxi and well, geesh. The time it does fly. it really does but with each stage there are such amazing things that happen and when you think getting closer isn’t possible cause how could you love her any more, it just keeps growing and grows and grows. I will end with, your killing me with the red docs! I ADORE that picture.

    • I’ve got this picture of a cute little 1 year-old naked riding his little car – adorable! We’ll forever have those little memories in our head, ready to be played anytime. It’s so bittersweet isn’t it? We cherish every amazing thing that happens, every funny/lovely/not-so-lovely memories they are making and yet, we are reminded that time is fleeting. That soon, like your son, my little T will want her own life….

  2. What a fabulous post Dean – I just love the photos too. Gorgeous baby shot of T. I’m not sure how this happens, this dependent on Mummy to being happy to be elsewhere. It’s heartbreaking but brilliant at the same time. Much better than leaving them in tears I guess though. We just don’t want them to grow up too quickly do we. POD will be three on Christmas Day, I’m dreading it! Thank you so much for sharing, beautiful post #whatsthestory

    • Oh wow, before you know it POD will be three too! As for leaving them in tears, I think it’s happening the other way around – leaving ME in tears. Hahaha. I’ll get over it. Yes, while it’s a bit sad that she’s growing up so fasty, I’m kinda proud too and happy that she’s making new friends and learning how to be independent.

  3. I love that age! When they hit the “I wanna do it myself” it is such a blessing – and a curse – I ended up buying Mr. T velcro shoes because I could only handle stopping to let him tie his own shoes for so long! 🙂

  4. Ahh hope you enjoyed your afternoon – it would have been Location, Location, Location for me 🙂

    I hope T had a fun time too – am so jealous of her DM’s, very cool 🙂

    • Thanks! I ended up doing chores instead. Hahaha. It’s still a bit of a novelty for me, this having some free time on my own. It’s annoying though that this happened just when I don’t have any freelance work to keep me busy. Oh well… Hope everyone in your family are feeling better now =)

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