Little T announced this when she woke up on Sports Day. I replied, “It’s okay sweetie. As long as you do your best and have fun with your friends. That’s really what it’s all about, isn’t it?” She nodded her little head. Later on I wondered, should I have told her to aim to win? I remember one of the mums last year told her kids “It’s alright to want to win you know”. And she’s right. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to win. But at the same time, I didn’t want to pressure little T, she’s only six for goodness sake. And in my opinion, she has too much after school activities. She does ballet, gymnastics and swimming. I’m not even including her cello lessons which they do in their school. The thing is, she loves her ballet, gymnastics, although I suspect she loves her swimming class only because most of her close friends are in the same class, so it’s really like an extended play-time for all of them. But who am I to complain when she loves and enjoys all of them.
We never tell her to aim for the gold, or aim to win. We always say “have fun”, because to us, that’s all that matters. We want our little girl to enjoy and have fun. The pressure goodness knows will come soon, no matter how hard we try to avoid it, so why start now? Like I mentioned, she’s only six.
And that little girl who doubted herself, but did her best, and not to mention is the youngest and shortest in their class won the race and not because we told her to win – it was all her doing. She didn’t aim to win. But as her dad said, she ran as fast as her little legs could carry her and won the race.
At the end, I didn’t even know she won, I thought it was E, who is a year older than T and has really long legs, and was leading the race at the beginning. Her dad said “No, T won!” I said “Really? Not T with her short legs”. He said, “Yes T won!”. I walked back to my husband and said “Did you see that?” He said “Yes, I’m so proud of her” And when I looked at my husband, he was all teary-eyed. I guess my little T did win after all.
Later that night, we looked at the photos and the video I took and my husband gasped. He explained that he told her to not clench her fist, but to relax and open her palms up and then lunge forward when nearing the finish line. If you peer at the photos I took (although those were taken not in the actual race that she won, but the relay race of her entire team), she actually listened to her dad and relaxed her hand instead of clenching it.
My little daughter, she’s astonishing, isn’t she? She certainly is. We are so proud of her.